How do we gain true humility? How well do we really know ourselves?

Recently for spiritual reading I’ve been reading St Teresa of Avila’s Interior Castle. Its a book I tried to read before, but it was a bit forced and never had much impact. This time, I feel like she wrote that book just for me. Right to my soul. God’s timing huh? The idea that has recently captured me, and changed my life recently, is her talk of self knowledge. An idea early on in the book, one that I had brushed over before, but for some reason not taken too seriously (I’d been stuck in an outer mansion). Teresa’s talk of self knowledge relates to humility. Humility on its own, as a virtue, can be rather forced. It isn’t true humility if you are solely endeavouring to be humble. However, with self knowledge, you are first made truly humble. Humility is secret. You are aware of your actions, thoughts and their effects, and where you need God’s grace in your life. Rather than outwardly seeking to appear humble, we truly gain the virtue. We endeavour to grow and change for the better.

“Self knowledge is so important that, even if you were raised right up to the heavens, I should like you never to relax your cultivation of it; so long as we are on this earth, nothing matters more to us than humility.” – St Teresa of Avila, Interior Castle

The Mirror of our Flaws

Self knowledge can be a tough things to face. Like seeing in the mirror all your flaws. And we become aware of our need for God. We realise our failings. The areas we need to grow in. And that we can’t do it on our own. We need divine help. And for the knowledge of ourselves in the first place we need God. It is cyclical.

“We shall never succeed in knowing ourselves unless we seek to know God: let us think of his greatness and then come back to our own baseness; by looking at his purity we shall see our foulness; by meditating upon his humility, we shall see how far we are from being humble” – St Teresa of Avila, Interior Castle

“Lord, I need You, oh, I need You Every hour I need You My one defense, my righteousness Oh God, how I need You” – Matt Maher, Lord I need you

The secret is prayer and meditation. Knowledge of god brings self knowledge.

“If we turn from self towards God, our understanding and our will become nobler and readier to embrace all that is good: if we never rise above the slough of our own miseries we do ourselves a great disservice.” – St Teresa of Avila, Interior Castle

St Teresa speaks of how we get stuck in thinking solely of ourselves, ironically suffering from a lack of self knowledge. We have a fixed idea of ourselves, thinking that we are humble, yet being self obsessed. This is a trick of the devil to prevent us really knowing ourselves and the way of God. We seek satisfaction in things that aren’t actually fulfilling, that we think we need but we won’t find true happiness in.

But with prayer and self knowledge we gain perspective. We are able to really ‘walk’ with God. To open our eyes to his graces in our lives and how we respond to them. To better make decisions. To be joyful and to greater give ourselves as gifts for others. To live our lives as a prayer.

How can we grow in self knowledge?